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It all started during a recent Instagram Q&A with Katey Duggar.

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While answering fan questions, Katey Duggar was asked more than once how she’s managing as a new mom of four under the age of 3, and she explained that she had plenty of help from her family and from Jed, who she described as a “hands-on dad” in her Instagram Stories post.

This immediately stuck out to critics on Reddit, and people have a lot of feelings about this one.

Fans are pointing out that a ‘hands-on dad’ is just a dad.

In the Reddit post about Katey’s Q&A, one person pointed out the hypocrisy of that statement.

“‘Hands on dad’ that’s just being a parent. No one says ‘hands on mom,’” one person wrote.

Another user asked, “I’m curious what a ‘hands-on dad’ means? Sweeping up crumbs?”

Others pointed out a qualifier that Katey used in her post.

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She didn’t just call Jed a hands-on dad, she called him a hands-on dad “when he’s home,” and that made all the difference to more than one of the Redditors.

One commenter wrote: “That ‘when he’s home’ seems to be doing a lot of heavy lifting lol. How often is he actually home tho.”

Another chimed in: “grateful for JED helping when he is home? IT’S CALLED PARENTING KATE.”

Fortunately, it seems like Katey’s still getting the chance to take time away from the kids.

In a video Katey and her friends shared in honor of Valentine’s Day, it looks like she was able to get away to celebrate Galentine’s Day with a few pals and some of her sisters-in-law, including Joy-Anna and Abbie. As a mom of four little ones, the time to be silly with her friends must have meant so much to her.

Now, for our next question: Was Jed wrangling all four kids on his own at home while she was out?